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Jul 31, 2025

Choose Your Hard

Life

Timothy Nice

“Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.” (often credited to Abraham Lincoln)

Forward Flash

This past week has been one of reflection. We love adding value to people, yet we keep asking whether Forever Forward is still the best place to do that. Building a two-sided platform is possible, but it doubles the challenge because mentors and protégés have to show up together for it to work. The hard part is not the tech, it is choosing a project we feel excited to build, run, and sustain on top of busy lives.

Whatever comes next will serve people, involve my brother, and align with my values. We have a few ideas brewing and will soon decide which one to pull the trigger on. I still believe the world needs a mentorship platform that fosters real relationships for builders and creators; I am simply weighing the timing, the go-to-market plan, and the time investment required to give it the love it deserves. If you have thoughts or questions, reach out to Daniel or me. We would love to chat.

5-Minutes Forward

  • Open your calendar right now. Block three gym or skating sessions for the coming week. Add reminders and mark the slots as non-negotiable. That simple five-minute task turns a wish into an appointment with your future self.

Know someone debating the snooze button? Forward this article to them. A quick nudge today might spare them a long-term ache tomorrow.

Jul 31, 2025

Choose Your Hard

Timothy Nice

“Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.” (often credited to Abraham Lincoln)

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Forward Flash

This past week has been one of reflection. We love adding value to people, yet we keep asking whether Forever Forward is still the best place to do that. Building a two-sided platform is possible, but it doubles the challenge because mentors and protégés have to show up together for it to work. The hard part is not the tech, it is choosing a project we feel excited to build, run, and sustain on top of busy lives.

Whatever comes next will serve people, involve my brother, and align with my values. We have a few ideas brewing and will soon decide which one to pull the trigger on. I still believe the world needs a mentorship platform that fosters real relationships for builders and creators; I am simply weighing the timing, the go-to-market plan, and the time investment required to give it the love it deserves. If you have thoughts or questions, reach out to Daniel or me. We would love to chat.

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5-Minutes Forward

  • Open your calendar right now. Block three gym or skating sessions for the coming week. Add reminders and mark the slots as non-negotiable. That simple five-minute task turns a wish into an appointment with your future self.

Know someone debating the snooze button? Forward this article to them. A quick nudge today might spare them a long-term ache tomorrow.

Question

Why is life so hard?

My Perspective

Short Answer? Because you make life hard…

Your alarm snaps you awake at five.

Your body begs for the snooze button. Your skates and stick, already packed by the door, remind you that the ice time is paid for, yet the justifications to stay in bed flood your brain.

Either choice is hard. One means shivering into gear at 5:30, sore, tired, half-asleep, before sunrise. The other means rolling over, only to carry that familiar weight: tomorrow’s workout just got harder; you are already behind; what kind of example are you setting?

You cannot dodge hard. You can only decide which hard you will live with. In those moments I remember my son’s words: “It won’t matter once you step on the ice.” Once you start, once you go all-in on the hard decision now, it becomes much easier later. I try to do my future self a favor every time I face that choice.

The myth of “easy”

We chase shortcuts because we believe in easy: six-minute abs, passive income while we nap, a productivity hack that fixes everything. “Easy” always sends a bill. Skip leg day and the invoice shows up as aching knees, stubborn fat, or a doctor circling numbers in red. Grab fast food tonight and you borrow energy from tomorrow at a brutal interest rate. Keep choosing easy and life spirals.

Discipline hard vs. regret hard

Hard Now

Hard Later

Logging every meal, hitting the gym, swapping soda for water

Tight jeans, low energy, poor self image, lack of confidence, and medical issues

Meal planning on Sunday afternoon

Impulse take-out bills, freezer-burn surprises, sluggish afternoons

Early lights-out so you can skate before work

Chronic fatigue, creeping weight gain, canceled hockey leagues and missing out on the fun

Up-front database schema planning and indexing

Scaling crises, costly migrations, midnight outages that wreck sleep, re-factoring again and again

Building and maintaining a design system

Inconsistent UI, duplicate components, weeks of rework before launch

Five-minute daily check-in with your spouse

Growing distance, tiny misunderstandings that explode later

Automatic monthly transfer to savings

Stress when emergencies hit, living paycheck to paycheck, debt

Discipline pain is visible and measurable; it usually ends quicker than you think. Regret pain hides, multiplies, and demands payment when you are least equipped to fight back. It is almost always better to skip the debate, drop the procrastination, and just decide. John Maxwell calls “Do it now” one of the most powerful phrases. I once challenged myself to say it out loud one hundred times every morning. That practice rewired my brain. I still hear the phrase when I am tempted to delay the hard choice.

I still pick the easy path sometimes, and that is okay. The goal is to stack more marks in the “hard now” column than in the “hard later” column so the trajectory of life angles up instead of spiraling down. This applies to parenting, marriage, work, habits, health, spiritual life, everything. Invest in your future self. Most of the pain is in your mind anyway, so focus on the benefit and trust it will be worth it.

A four-step filter for every crossroads
  1. Spot the fork. Name both discomforts. If you cannot name them you cannot choose them.

  2. Map the payoffs. List the freedom discipline unlocks, then list the cost regret will charge.

  3. Time-box the pain. An hour on the ice versus years managing chronic health issues is a clear trade.

  4. Decide once. Remove daily willpower. Automate grocery delivery, schedule workouts with a friend who sends angry emojis if you ghost, or lock a standing skating slot on your calendar.

Two futures, one decision

Picture a tidy stack of meal-prep containers beside a greasy burger and fries. Both paths require effort. One asks for it up front with a cutting board and a little planning. The other asks later, compounded, in doctor visits and lost opportunities.

Hard is inevitable. Choosing your hard is optional. Decide once, automate the win, and let the habit run.